I’m Claire Mendelsohn, the founder of Trusted Touch.
I’m thrilled to be collaborating with Liz and her team for Pro-Touch Awareness Month in October. I’d like to talk about a subject close to my heart, that of the loneliness epidemic and how consensual, platonic touch can help to alleviate it.
Here is the second of three blogs on the topic.
Hiding our loneliness from each other seems a deeply ingrained instinct. We have a desperate need for social contact and emotional bonding, but we cannot simply acknowledge this need, and get on with the pursuit of human warmth and intimacy in a natural, straightforward fashion. Wherever you come from, and whatever cultural norms govern your interactions with others, I’m betting you can relate to this on some level. If not, you’ll at least have a sense of what it’s like to feel cut off from human contact, and appreciate why, for those living with that experience 24/7, it’s such an important thing to confront, at every level: individuals, friends and families, communities and populations. I’m optimistic that as long as we’re talking about it, precisely because we’re socially motivated creatures, it’s a thing that can ultimately be dealt with.
Humans are designed to be kind to each other, and we’re designed to rely on each other and to thrive. So, when did you last touch someone outside your family or intimate relationship? I mean: when did you pat the arm or back of a stranger, colleague or friend? Touch is the first sense humans develop in the womb, possessed even of 1.5cm embryos. But somewhere in adulthood what was instinctive to us as children has come to feel awkward, out of bounds. In countless ways social touch is being nudged from our lives. In the UK, doctors were warned to avoid comforting patients with hugs lest they provoke legal action, and a government report found that foster carers were frightened to hug children in their care for the same reason. Teachers hesitate to touch pupils. And in the UK, in a loneliness epidemic, half a million older people go at least five days a week without seeing or touching a soul.
Sensing this deficit, a pro-touch industry is burgeoning in Europe, Australia and the US, where professional cuddlers operate workshops, parties and one-to-one sessions to soothe the touch-deprived.
Is this what a crisis of touch looks like? And if so, what do humans risk losing, when we lose touch? We have demonised touch to a level at which it sparks off hysterical responses and legislative processes, and this lack of touch is not good for mental health. I’ve heard of teachers asking children to stick on a plaster themselves, rather than touch them and risk a complaint. We seem to be creating a touch-averse world, and it’s high time we recovered the social power of touch.
about the author
Claire Mendelsohn is the founder of Trusted Touch and the CEO and head tutor of London Therapists, one of the UK’s most established private massage training companies. Claire is blazing the trail for the acceptance of platonic touch as therapy.
As an experienced holistic massage tutor and Trusted Touch therapist, she’s humbled by the power of human touch to soothe and heal. While holistic massage has certainly helped her clients deal with their aches and pains, she always felt that there was a part of the jigsaw still missing. After much research into touch and its benefits, Claire decided that the time was right to launch Trusted Touch, the very first professional training, certification and membership body for Trusted Touch practitioners.
She recognised the need for regulation within the touch therapy profession, a comprehensive training course to ensure responsible, ethical practice, a professional membership body to provide a support network, specialist insurance cover and certified and trained Trusted Touch practitioners that prospective clients can book with confidence. Somewhere out there someone is in need of human contact, yet he or she has no one to turn to. When you book a Trusted Touch practitioner you will discover a safe, warm and non-judgmental oasis where you can step out of your everyday life, re-discover the pleasure of non-sexual touch and enjoy the many physiological and psychological benefits of platonic touch.
Simple and beautiful. Claire hopes that you will join her in establishing Trusted Touch as a legitimate holistic therapy modality.